The Results of Her Pregnancy Test Can Change Your Life!

If you think your girlfriend is pregnant, your mind is probably racing with questions and concerns.  The rest of your life is NOT ruined, but you have changed your life and hers forever.  The good news is you now have the opportunity to demonstrate responsibility and maturity.  Real men don’t bail!

The Test is Positive

If the test is positive your life has already been changed.  You are now the father of a baby growing inside the mother’s womb.  Did you know that your baby’s heart began beating at 21 days after it was conceived?  Even before the baby’s mother missed her period there was a separate heart beating in her womb.  This new life has inherited 23 chromosomes from each parent, 46 in all.  Your child already has the complex genetic blueprint for every detail of human development – the child’s sex, hair and eye color, height, and skin tone.

As amazing as all that science can be, you may be more concerned with the responsibility of parenting a child.  It’s not unusual for you to feel overwhelmed and not ready to take on parenting responsibilities.  Whether you believe it or not, you do have the capability to be the best father you can be.  No matter what the circumstances are right now, and no matter how you grew up, with support, education, and wise choices, you can become a responsible man and a great father.

Some great first steps to take are: Let your girlfriend know you will be there for her. Offer to go with her to tell her parents the news. Research all of your options so the two of you can make an informed decision. Avoid putting pressure on her to have an abortion. Work with your girlfriend to determine what the best plan is for her, for you, and for the baby.

Responsibility and Choices

When you became sexually active you made a choice.  Today you are facing a consequence from that choice that will require you stepping up to the plate and taking responsibility.  What are your options?

• Pressure your partner into an abortion.  This may seem like the easy way out.  But, this is simply an attempt to avoid the truth that other lives are involved. First, abortion is the taking of an innocent human life, the life of your child. Secondly, you are placing your girlfriend at risk for physical and emotional problems.  Third, studies have shown an abortion is more likely to damage your relationship, instead of help it.  Lastly, you will have to live with the consequences of making the decision to deliberately end the life of your child.  Abortion affects men, too.

• Consider adoption.  The men and women who choose to place their child in another family through adoption are making a responsible parenting plan.  If you believe at this moment and time you are not ready or fully capable of providing for your child, adoption is a mature choice.  Adoption gives a child the opportunity for a full life and a future.  It gives you, and your girlfriend, the ability to pursue your current dreams and make another couple’s life very happy.

• Full time parenting.  Whether you marry the mother of your child or not, you will forever be the father of this baby.  You can be a supportive and loving father, or an absent father.  Fathers are an integral part of a child’s life.  The relationship they have with their child will impact their child for a lifetime. When fathers are not involved the rate of infant mortality increases, mothers are more likely to have low birth weight babies, and mothers are less likely to breastfeed.  Regardless of how you choose to parent, you are legally required to financially support your child until he or she is age 18.

The Test is Negative Now you have the chance to do something really positive.  Move beyond this crisis – it is time to seriously pursue your dreams.  You have the chance to start over and do it right.  Despite how you’re feeling now, it is never too late to start making better decisions about your sexual health. Let’s face it, we all make mistakes.  But the biggest mistake of all is not learning from previous ones.  Now is the time to make changes for the sake of your future.  A better life tomorrow is shaped by the choices you make today.  The road to a happier, healthier, more satisfying future can start right now.

See a Doctor

Your body needs for you to take care of it.  Eating healthy and working out is great, but men also need medical attention.  Sexually active men are at significant risk for acquiring diseases and infections.  Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are not just uncomfortable, but they are unhealthy and can be excruciatingly painful, render you infertile for life, or even kill you.  When you’ve had sex with someone, it’s the same as if you’ve had sex with everyone they’ve had sex with, and the list goes on and on.  Most people don’t even know they’ve got a STI until later – sometimes much later when an infection has moved into advanced stages.  There is almost no way to know for sure the health of the person you’re having sex with.  It’s your responsibility to take care of yourself, get tested, and get treated.

The Best Sex

Believe it or not, studies show that those that report having the most satisfying sex life are married couples.  Monogamous, committed relationships take away the pressure of worrying about pregnancy outside of marriage, sexually transmitted diseases, and concern about breaking up.  The best sex is a byproduct of trust, respect and commitment. So, if you want the best sex ever, you just might want to think that over. Your momma was speaking truth when she said, “The best things in life are worth waiting for.” Self control is an awesome character trait to develop and will serve you well all through your life.

Check out this website for great information:

www.fatherhood.org 

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